As a single mother, there are plenty of dating tips for how to get guys. But, now that you’re a parent, every decision you make has to be with your children in mind. You’re no longer looking for a boyfriend now; you’re looking for a future father! This is what it boils down to at the end of the day. Any guy that’s going to make it with you will need to meet your kids at some point, so they have to be father material.
The problem is there are a lot of weirdos out there, and it’s difficult for us to spot them! So we need to take the opportunity to vet potential dates and partners. I might sound like I’m being a little over the top, but when you think about it, you’re doing it for the kids. So, get a load of my tips to help you vet any guys who might have romantic potential in your life!
The beauty of social media these days is that we can use it to find out things about people. It might sound intrusive, but trust me, ladies, it pays to be safe these days. There are plenty of weirdos and unsavoury guys out there. And as mom’s we need to protect not just ourselves, but our kids as well. So Facebook stalking might seem a tad unethical, but, in many ways it is a sensible thing to do.
Meet in a Public Place
Online dating has become hugely popular these days, and there’s a good bet you’ve dabbled in it. It’s entirely possible to meet Mr. Right from online dating. But you might have to go through a few Mr. Wrong’s first! Just make sure you’re always as careful as possible. You need to put your safety first at all times. So when you first meet someone for a date make sure you always meet in a public place. I can’t stress enough how important I think this is. Being in public will prevent anything untoward from happening, so you need to keep sensible and careful.
Hire a Private Investigator!
Now, if you’ve been dating a guy for a little while, you might be thinking about introducing him to the kids. And this is where you need to be extra careful ladies. I would recommend you vet the guy a bit more thoroughly before allowing your children to bond with him. So, I’m going to suggest you hire a private investigator to find out information about the guy. Nothing that’s going to be intrusive or violating. But, just to make sure he has no skeletons in the closet that you might need to know about. I consider this to be due diligence, so you need to make sure you do this before things get too serious.
Take Things Slow
When you first start dating someone new, it can be magical. But I suggest you take things slow at the moment. You’ve got to think things through and put your kids first. If you get serious with a guy, he’ll be meeting the kids pretty soon, and they might bond with him. But if you got serious too quickly and things don’t work out it will be confusing and upsetting for the children. It’s better to take things slow and be certain that you’re absolutely sure before fully committing.
By making use of my advice, you can vet the guys you might start dating. It’s essential for the safety and emotional stability of you and your kids. By doing this, you’re being a good mother and making sure you look after your family. I hope you can use these tips to get the outcome you hope for.